We have three rules that we've lived by since we got married nearly six years ago. First, we never, ever go to sleep with any issues unsettled between us. Second, we never, ever go to sleep alone. (Well, we didn't until my husband starting working nights, but we keep with this every night that he's home.) Third, before going to sleep, we each share something that we love about the other. We've had our share of spats in our marriage, but I'm so thankful that God has blessed our love for each other. I honestly can't imagine my life without my husband.
And of course, it helps when you're married to the greatest man in the world, too. 😉
One of my girlfriends told me a story that her mother told her. "If your husband were hungry, what would you do?" "Well, I'd make him a sandwich." " Well, if your husband was hungry in the bedroom, what would you do?" I will edit her comments here, but in the end it comes down to. . . "If your husband is hungry, make him a sandwich." There are nights where I just am so tired that I want to go to bed, but the words of my friend's mom come to my head, and I "make my husband a sandwich." And in the end, we both go to bed happier.
I am newly married and there have definitely been arguments over dishes/cleaning. We try to keep things in perspective. My husband has also learned there are emotional days of the month when we try not to talk about critical issues. One of the biggest advantages about being married is you have a partner in crime. There are life decisions that are outside my comfort zone but when you have a partner they become possible.
My husband and I are working on 15 yrs. Both of us have been married before. We have several things that we abide by: GOD is the head of of our lives and our home. There is NO divorce that word is not in our language. There is NO "steps." We are parents and the kids are ours. This has been wonderful. We work with the ex's for our kids. Things worked better for all that way. We have 6 total children. 5 are out of the house and were/are in the military. We also have 6 grandchildren. The step rules apply there also. We do not go to bed angry. We talk them out and never use our bedroom for these talks. We have our date night once a week. This is our time. We both give 150% of ourselves. I put hubby's needs before mine and I never have to worry about taking care of myself because he takes care of me. We romance each other. Sorry this is so long, but it is how our marriage works!
We have three rules that we've lived by since we got married nearly six years ago. First, we never, ever go to sleep with any issues unsettled between us. Second, we never, ever go to sleep alone. (Well, we didn't until my husband starting working nights, but we keep with this every night that he's home.) Third, before going to sleep, we each share something that we love about the other. We've had our share of spats in our marriage, but I'm so thankful that God has blessed our love for each other. I honestly can't imagine my life without my husband.
And of course, it helps when you're married to the greatest man in the world, too. 😉
I had to start laughing when you said the dishes argument… sounds dumb but when the hubs and I got married we had the dishes argument.
My marriage gets better and better each year were together too. One thing that I learned is that you have to let the little things go.
loved this… I just did my first social spark post this week but yours blows mine away! you rock..as always
One of my girlfriends told me a story that her mother told her. "If your husband were hungry, what would you do?" "Well, I'd make him a sandwich." " Well, if your husband was hungry in the bedroom, what would you do?" I will edit her comments here, but in the end it comes down to. . . "If your husband is hungry, make him a sandwich." There are nights where I just am so tired that I want to go to bed, but the words of my friend's mom come to my head, and I "make my husband a sandwich." And in the end, we both go to bed happier.
You spoke my mind exactly. I long for my single days once in awhile but being married FAR outweighs those desires 🙂
I am newly married and there have definitely been arguments over dishes/cleaning. We try to keep things in perspective. My husband has also learned there are emotional days of the month when we try not to talk about critical issues. One of the biggest advantages about being married is you have a partner in crime. There are life decisions that are outside my comfort zone but when you have a partner they become possible.
My husband and I are working on 15 yrs. Both of us have been married before. We have several things that we abide by: GOD is the head of of our lives and our home. There is NO divorce that word is not in our language. There is NO "steps." We are parents and the kids are ours. This has been wonderful. We work with the ex's for our kids. Things worked better for all that way. We have 6 total children. 5 are out of the house and were/are in the military. We also have 6 grandchildren. The step rules apply there also. We do not go to bed angry. We talk them out and never use our bedroom for these talks. We have our date night once a week. This is our time. We both give 150% of ourselves. I put hubby's needs before mine and I never have to worry about taking care of myself because he takes care of me. We romance each other.
Sorry this is so long, but it is how our marriage works!